the recent ruling by the california supreme court allowing same-sex couples to marry was an incredibly important victory for equal rights, but m21 thought the ruling probably wouldn't have a direct impact on his life or on the lives of those close to him. maison21 ain't the marryin' kind, and he assumed that his friends in committed relationships weren't in any rush to change the status quo, either.
turns out m21 couldn't have been more wrong, and he couldn't be more thrilled or touched about it. you see, m21 recently received an email from two of his oldest friends announcing their recent surprise nuptials. seems that on the morning of their 22nd anniversary, m21's old friend, tony, proposed to m21's even older friend, paul, (older as in length of relationship, not as in age). within hours of tony's proposal, the two were at city hall tying the knot- after 22 years, they are still committed, and still in love, and now it's legal too! maison21 couldn't be happier for the two of them, as they are as much a part m21's family as his actual blood relatives. and m21 is only a little bit miffed that he wasn't invited to the whirlwind ceremony. after knowing those two longer than some of you have been alive, you'd think m21 would've been asked to be best man, or maid of honor, or whatever- i mean after all, m21 was there the night it all began...
here's back story of maison21's relationship with the newlyweds:
m21 met half of the happy couple- his oldest friend in the whole wide world, paul- on the first day of the 3rd grade- many, many, many, years ago. our teacher, mrs. radebaugh, made the mistake of seating the two of us next to each other, and we immediately hit it off, bonding over typical school boy stuff- you know, things like sewing clothes for g.i. joe, and decorating his "command headquarters" with fresh flowers and a custom waterbed (made of lincoln logs and a water-filled ziploc baggie). didn't all 3rd grade boys enjoy that kind of thing?
here's m21 and his buddy paul, a few years later, at our junior high graduation dance- held in a for real disco- we thought we were so sophisticated...
cut to about 10 years after the above photo- a young m21 was showing his visiting san diego friend, paul, a drunken good time at a san francisco nightclub and over a soundtrack of banarama and the pet shop boys, paul met tony's eye. the rest is history- soon after, a simple vacation fling turned serious, and while paul gained a long-distance boyfriend, m21 gained a new bestest buddy.
when tony decided to move to san diego a few years later to live with paul and start their life together, it coincided with m21's own move to los angeles, so he and tony rented a u-haul together for the move down- a u-haul which they packed up, and then proceeded to park it for a week, while having the longest (and funnest) farewell party in history! ah, youth... (we think the below picture is from our week long farewell tour- the memories are very blurry. m21 is on the far right with the totally natural blond hair, and tony is on the far left, in the turtleneck. we hate him, btw- apart from a some gray hair, the eternally youthful tony looks almost exactly the same today, whereas m21 looks, well, less blond, amongst other changes).
in the two decades since, paul and tony have built a beautiful life together in san diego- tony is now dr. tony (a for reals MD, not a fake-ass PHD or anything, like dr. phil), and paul owns a successful business. m21 counts himself fortunate to still be included in their lives, and is looking forward to being included for the next twenty-two years, and hopefully, the next twenty-two after that, if our hearts and livers hold out long enough...
congratulations, kids! i love you both, and feel truly fortunate to have you in my life.
and congratulations to the supreme court of california, for ending a discriminatory and prejudicial practice, and recognizing that ALL couples are equal under the law.
score one for equality and true love.